Mother's Day

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that a day like Mother’s Day is particularly difficult for me. I am very conscious of not becoming one of those bitter-at-the-world childless women. I mean those women that take personal offense at other women’s pregnancies, adoptions, etc. I have not come to the point where I think that other people are trying to personally hurt me by creating their own families, and I hope I am never at that point. This is particularly important for me, since I have a particularly fertile set of friends… it seems like every month there is someone birthing a baby, adopting a baby, or announcing that they will be doing one of those things. God calls us to love each other, to support each other, and that means sharing in each other’s joy, even if we are hurting. Am I angry sometimes? Yes. Am I bitter sometimes? Definitely. But my anger shouldn’t spill over to the point I can’t be happy for my friends who are mothers. I love on them and their children just the same.

Everything about this day is hard… this day invented, so it seems, to sell greeting cards and flowers. The displays at the store, the church service dedicated to mothers, being asked to be in the nursery so the mothers can enjoy the service, etc… (Hint-do not ask the infertile woman to be in the nursery WITH THE BABIES on MOTHERS DAY… innocuous sounding, yes, but not a good emotional dynamic…) Do not even get me started on the commercials.

BUT- the promises from God do not change from one day to the next. And that alone gives me joy.

So, love on your friends today that are struggling with infertility… acknowledge that it is a difficult time, and let them know you are thinking of them, and are praying for them.

And- don’t forget to call your mom:-)